Tuesday, December 21, 2010

The Run In With the Ex Girlfriend

Bumping into one of your boyfriends or ex boyfriends ex girlfriends can be so awkward! It hasn't happened that many times to me, but when it does I feel extreme relief when I realize that I am dressed to impress! It's so funny how in a split second, the atmosphere changes and I am sure that the first thing that probably comes to both our minds is that guy that made the connection between us in the first place. Today I went to the movies with one of my bestfriends and noticed one of the ex girlfriends with her group of friends. We definitely stared each other down for what seemed like longer than we actually did. This ex girlfriend actually happens to be the ex of the guy I mentioned in my earlier post about my biggest regret. Yep... In hindsight, I would actually be considered the "ex" (quotes due to the fact that we were never official). She came after me and boy did she take him fast. I think it was two weeks after we decided things wouldn't work out between us and I went off to college that I found out he was in a relationship with her. Can you say HEART BROKEN? Yeah, that one was an ouch but what can I say, she was the smart one for not letting him slip away the way I did. I am happy to be able to say though that he and I are still friends and the mystery that the future holds keeps me grounded and full of passion.

Lots of Love- Claudia

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Her Standards

Now that I'm about to graduate with a BA Degree I have noticed that my standards are changing. YES, every girl should have their standards but there's always a limit. We don't want to get carried away and create a fictional man that no guy will ever live up to. I am 21 years old and eventhough all my friends seem to be getting married and having kids it's not what is strictly on my mind at this moment. I am a determined person; I want to be successful. I want my future husband to be successful too. I don't know whether my next boy friend will eventually become my husband therefore I can't take any risks...I want the men that I date to be educated. Going to college especially going away for college says a lot about the person. I want a guy that isn't only thinking about what parties they are going to on Saturday. Don't get me wrong, I love to go out on weekends with my friends and I have met so many people that are more work oriented than me but I want someone who is on the same page as me. This makes me wonder whether my standards are too high. I briefly talked about this with my best friend and she agreed that I am doing the right thing in looking for a guy that is at least about to graduate because that's where I'm at right now. Maybe she's just being biased :) Of course, there are exceptions like if this guy has started his own business without attending college. So what do you think? Am I wrong for setting these standards? Am I risking letting a good one slip away because of these standards?

With Love, Claudia G.

Friday, December 10, 2010

Are My Standards Too High?

I just read a very inspiring blog about a 17 year old who has been blessed with what we both believe to be her one true love. Their relationship is amazing. Of course that post inspired me. Not only to post a new post on my blog but to smile at the knowledge that somewhere out there is my perfectly imperfect match waiting for me. YES, like I think I have mentioned before, I LOVE being single I really do but at times I wish I had someone to share my happiness with. Here's the thing, I tend to choose my closest friends to share this happinness of mine with, and this friendship turns to what my friends have called as me being too loyal...yes, too loyal. What they mean by that is that I put my friends before me and of course that is a great quality but it seems to set me up for disaster EVERYTIME. Im tired of giving my all to people that will not always return it. You see my way of thinking is that if I put "you" before me and "you" put me before "you" then we have created a safe haven. If only all the world lived this way :) So what Im saying here is that I think* I'm ready to create this safe haven. Im tired of hurting from caring too much...I love my friends so much and I understand that it's not their job to care as much as I do when what they are doing is looking for that safe haven too. This leads me to question my standards but this post has taken a different turn ;) I'll save that for my next posting.

With love always and forever,
Taya <3 ps. maybe now is the right time to change my title....nah